A man has always been supposed to be the one who has to take initiative in all cases. Especially, if it comes to introducing or getting closer to the person of an opposite sex. A man gets acquainted first, a man invites a woman for a date, and finally, a man proposes. A man chooses a right woman, carries about her and supports her. So it seems like this is him who decides everything, who deals with everything and a woman takes only a passive position. But is it really how it seems. In fact, he does everything, he lays himself out only for hearing the cherished “Yes”. So actually, this is a woman who makes choice and usually, her word is the last.
But times tend to change. Nowadays nobody may be surprised by the fact of existence of military women, business ladies or women firefighters. There is not already a separation between work for men and work for women. There many couples where a woman gains money and a man does a babysitting. Besides, sometimes even women propose to their men. It’s hard to say why it’s happening. Some say that’s because men are not anymore like they used to be, another people say the reason is in that men freaked out because of the emerging feminism and stated: ”Enjoy your justice women!” But a consequence is much more important than a reason in this case.
To make or not to make
In our time everything is easier enough – who is more decisive so who’s that is right up alley. But is this really important who is first if the result satisfies both? There is a stereotype meaning that a woman shows herself as an uncultured and immodest person making the first move. This is supposed to be indecent and besides, these times are already gone. Every woman can really be quite abstemious making a first woman like introducing herself first in acquaintance or asking a man for a date. The main things are to manage to stay unobtrusive and to keep that special women’s magic.
4 ways of making a first move:
- Send him a text message, note, fax or an email
- Ask friend for a help
- Tell him everything personally
- Whisper him about your feelings
- Make him fall in love with you
1) Distant one
Send him a text message, note, fax or an email. (You also can do it using the online dating service www.invite.dating). At first, if your confession will turn out to be undesirable an object of your affections will have an opportunity to pretend he has not received any messages. So having noticed his silence you will understand everything without any words. If a man will insist on making the situation clear then you must act further according to his behavior. If it’s obvious that “the reason is not in you, the reason is in me” you just can pretend you’ve never sent him any messages and it must have been someone’s stupid joke. Acting like this you can even make this person feel uncomfortable and guilty. For understanding his reaction for sure you can play another game then:” Do you really want to receive a love message from me so much?” The strict requirement is a flirty smile and other women’s tricks.
2) Deputing one
This way is very popular in a primary school and it excludes a possibility to hear a negative answer personally. Your friend will take this important mission instead of you. In such case two persons will definitely enjoy this situation. First one is a man you are in love with will enjoy it because of being flattered and the second is your friend will appreciate it because of realizing her serious mission and your trust.
In a good case:
He will say to your friend that he’s been loving you for a long time and just he hadn’t enough courage to tell it. Then he’ll ask your friend to give him your phone number etc.
In a bad case:
You will pour out your soul being supported by a faithful friend.
In a worse case:
Your friend would like to trick a little and will tell you her own version of his answer. It’s even scary to imagine how awkward the situation is going to be after it… But at least it will be funny.
In the worst case:
He will turn out to be not interested. Then they both will have something in common to talk about. They will understand that they interest each other and your friend will start flirting with him…To be continued…
3) Personal one
Ask him for a date or even invite him in your house and tell him everything. Directly and without half-words. His reaction can be unexpected even if he is in love with you. You may scare him with your desperateness. Really, some men are afraid of direct, independent and confident women. They probably think she will be the head in their relationship and men don’t like to be weak ones in couple. In such case they prefer not to contact with such women. Men don’t want to seem miserable in comparison with such women. Besides, if he doesn’t feel the same it’s the hardest way because you will have to hear a decline personally.
4) Dancing one
He whirls you in a romantic dance and at last you decide to tell him about your feelings. Whatever he answers you will know the truth anyway. You will feel a reaction of his body after your confession. And this is not what you’ve just thought about. If you feel the appearance of his tension it means you have missed. But if he became softer and tried to pull you closer or tenderly took your hand you got him. The bravest man will kiss.
5) Correct one
This is definitely the hardest way to tell a man about your feelings. It takes most of time and most of efforts. There won’t be a guide of how to seduce a man, because almost every woman learns this science for the entire life. This way suggests not to tell him anything until he does it first. Flirt with him, be close to him support him when he needs it. He will come to you in a hard situation for an advice. Make him know that only you can understand him. But don’t turn yourself into his friend. Be womanly and soon a need of advice will become only a cover to come to you. And let him trust you and ask him about his hobbies and interests and soon you may become one of them but much intimate one. Be arduous despite This is hard enough when you are in love. It is how a human being was created – we appreciate which we spent many efforts to reach. When you understand that you have interested him try to limit your time together. It looks like a paradox but you have to let him realize that he misses you. And then he will do everything instead of you.